To help steer you properly, we spoke to a variety of divorce lawyers, mediators, and relationship experts for some steps to take to ensure your divorce is as painless as possible. Here, then, are 19 pieces of divorce advice, for helping to make the process as painless as possible.

1. Know What You Want

Angie HooperThe Eternity Rose

2. Think of the Children

Law Office of Emily Rubenstein

3. Look to Mediation…

Off the Record Mediation ServicesDori Shwirtz

4. …Or Consider a Collaborative Divorce

collaborative divorce

5. Talk to a Therapist

Cohen & Winters

6. Or Consider Jointly Seeing a Couple’s Counsellor

7. Shift Your Perspective

Reverend Ronnie Rol

8. Learn as Much as Possible About the Divorce Process

Accord Mediation

9. Don’t Go the DIY Route

10. Take Time to Find the Right Divorce Attorney

Finding the right person is crucial,Stephen L Cawelti

11. Love Your Children More Than You Dislike Your Ex

12. Get Your Finances Organized

13. Remember: Sometimes, Less Is More

Miller Law Group.

14. Try to Focus on Gratitude

Andrea HippsThe Best Worst Time of Your Life: Four Practices to Get You Through the Pain of Divorce

15. Build a Support Network…

16. …But Draw Boundaries

Naya Clinics

17. Commit to Having Mutual Respect For One Another

18. Avoid Revenge Seeking

19. Take the Time to Grieve